Common Fears and How to Overcome Them Before Your Boudoir Shoot
June 13th, 2025
Booking a boudoir shoot is an exciting and empowering decision, but let’s be honest—it's also one that can come with a lot of nerves. At Opie Beauty and Boudoir Photography, I’ve worked with hundreds of women who walked into the studio feeling a little unsure, but they walked out feeling confident, radiant, and so glad they took the leap.
Let’s address some of the most common fears clients have before their boudoir session and how you can overcome them.
Fear #1: "I’m Not Photogenic"
One of the most common things I hear from clients is, “I’m just not photogenic.” But here’s the truth: being photogenic isn’t about having model-like features—it’s about feeling comfortable, confident, and guided by the right photographer.
How to Overcome It:
- Trust me! With over 15 years of experience and having photographed over 2,000 boudoir clients, I know how to pose, guide, and coach you every step of the way.
- Remember, it’s my job to make you look and feel incredible—it’s not your job to know how to pose.
Fear #2: "I’m Not in My Ideal Shape/Size"
We all have insecurities, and it’s easy to let them hold you back. But boudoir photography isn’t about waiting for the “perfect body.” It’s about celebrating yourself right now.
How to Overcome It:
- Boudoir is for every body—every size, every shape, every curve.
- I use flattering lighting, expert posing, and thoughtful angles to highlight your best features and help you see yourself in a whole new light.
- Confidence isn’t a size—it’s a feeling, and a boudoir session can help unlock it.
Fear #3: "I Don’t Know What to Wear"
Choosing outfits for your boudoir session can feel overwhelming. Should you go for lace? Silk? Casual? Sexy? The good news is—you don’t need a massive wardrobe to look incredible.
How to Overcome It:
- Bring outfits that make you feel good. Whether it’s lingerie, a cozy sweater, or even your partner’s shirt, confidence starts with comfort.
- I’ll guide you through outfit choices during your pre-shoot consultation, and we’ll make sure everything fits your vision.
- Remember, it’s not about the outfit—it’s about how you feel in it.
Fear #4: "I’m Nervous About Being Vulnerable"
A boudoir session is an intimate experience, and feeling nervous about being in front of the camera is completely normal. But vulnerability can also be incredibly empowering.
How to Overcome It:
- Know that my studio is a safe, judgment-free space where you’re celebrated for exactly who you are.
- I’ll guide you through every pose and every detail—you’ll never be left wondering what to do.
- Take a few deep breaths, focus on having fun, and remember: you’re in control of your experience.
Fear #5: "What If I Don’t Like My Photos?"
The fear of not liking your photos can hold many women back, but I promise—you’ll be amazed at what we create together.
How to Overcome It:
- I’m here to make sure every image showcases your beauty, confidence, and personality.
- Every photo you see is carefully selected and edited to highlight your best self.
- Trust the process. So many clients are blown away when they see their final images.
Fear #6: "I Don’t Want My Photos Shared Publicly"
Your privacy is incredibly important, and sharing your images is always your choice.
How to Overcome It:
- At Opie Beauty and Boudoir Photography, your photos are never shared without your explicit permission.
- Many clients choose to keep their images private, and that’s completely okay.
- If you do want to share a few images, you’ll have full control over which ones are shown.
Fear #7: "I Don’t Know How to Pose or Look Sexy"
Posing can feel awkward at first, especially if you’ve never done a professional photo shoot before. But here’s the secret: it’s my job to pose you!
How to Overcome It:
- I’ll guide you into every pose and expression, from the tilt of your chin to the curve of your back.
- There’s no “right” way to look sexy—confidence and comfort are the most attractive things in any photo.
- Don’t worry about being perfect—just focus on having fun.
Fear #8: "What If I Don’t Feel Confident During the Shoot?"
Confidence isn’t something you have to bring to the session—it’s something we’ll build together.
How to Overcome It:
- Play your favorite music before your session or even during your shoot to loosen up.
- Take a moment to remind yourself why you’re here: to celebrate you.
- Trust me to guide you—you’re in good hands.
Fear #9: "Is It Worth the Investment?"
A boudoir session is an investment—not just financially, but emotionally. But the confidence, empowerment, and self-love you’ll walk away with are truly priceless.
How to Overcome It:
- Think of this as an investment in yourself. You deserve to feel celebrated, beautiful, and empowered.
- These photos will become cherished keepsakes—a reminder of your strength and beauty.
Fear #10: "Will I Regret Doing This?"
Almost every client who’s walked through my studio doors has said the same thing: “I wish I’d done this sooner.”
How to Overcome It:
- Focus on why you booked this session in the first place—to celebrate yourself.
- Remind yourself that fear is temporary, but confidence lasts a lifetime.
Final Thoughts: You’ve Got This!
It’s completely normal to feel nervous before your boudoir shoot—but remember, you’re stepping into a space designed to make you feel celebrated, beautiful, and empowered. At Opie Beauty and Boudoir Photography, I’m here to guide you, cheer you on, and help you see yourself the way the world sees you: absolutely stunning.
Are you ready to face those fears and step into your power? Let’s create something extraordinary together. Contact me today to book your boudoir session—you deserve this moment. 💖✨